The world only seems to be getting more stressful. Whatever side of the political divide you fall on, it’s unlikely you feel sanguine about the future (those opposed to Brexit, for example, are worried about the chaos that’s going to result while those in favour seem to be wedded to a Utopian idea, leaving them frustrated with the inevitable compromise of reality), costs are rising faster than salaries for all but the richest in society, leaving many in traditional comfortable, professional roles unable to afford to buy a home as society expects them to. The march of technology has not liberated us from work as predicted, but instead left more people competing for fewer jobs, and with the expectation that we will always be online, available and responsive even when we’re not technically ‘on the clock’.

All of this leaves dealing with stress as one of the most important skills you can learn, especially when faced with particularly dramatic stressful situation like moving house, divorce or unemployment. Today we’re looking at a few ways to minimise the impact of these events on your life, leaving you feeling calm, resilient and strong enough to face the future, however uncertain.

Plan

If you know you have a stressful event coming up, like a house move or a redundancy, start to plan for it as soon as possible. There are lots of guides for how to move house online, advice for dealing with losing your job, and even for working through a divorce.

Having a plan in place can reassuring – it means you can do something practical to improve your situation every day, and that helps to keep anxiety at bay.

It’s important your plans aren’t too rigid: don’t plan for things you have no control over, or you’re find yourself rapidly spiralling into anxiety and depression. It’s all about recognising what you can do, and making plans that maximise your effectiveness.

Feeling Bad

If you’re feeling bad, it’s important to strike a balance. Any stressful situation is going to take it’s toll on you emotionally, and pretending it’s not is only going to store up all that frustration, sadness and fear to fall on you when you’re least expecting or prepared for it.

You need to allow yourself time to feel those negative emotions without being swamped by them. Try to make sure, even on days when you feel things are totally out of your control, you do something constructive, even if it’s simply sending out a CV once, or calling someone for an update. That will remind you that, however bad things get, you are able to influence your situation and there is hope for the future.